Let’s talk about sex baby! Who the heck wants to talk about that?! Well I didn’t. But over the last few years I’ve heard SO MANY people tell me a variety of things, which have actually reassured me.
I have also run this blog past my husband, and he has given me the OK … I would never write about this without discussing it first.
After I gave birth to my first child, which was naturally, I was SO SCARED to have sex. Like ridiculously scared. I had stitches and was worried that it was going to tear and hurt incredibly.
So I waited a LONG time. 4-5 months later, it happened and it was fine. No problem at all.
Not everyone has this experience though, and my advice is to do it when YOU are ready. There is no right or wrong.
Moving forward, regular sex has kind of gone out the window. I want to do it, but at the end of the day I am so knackered, I just can’t be bothered.
Not only that, my body has changed SO MUCH since having children, I just don’t find myself attractive. I was always borderline not liking myself before kids, so now I truly struggle to see how someone else can find me attractive too.
I had a C-Section with my second child, so my stomach will NEVER look the same. Which meant I was even more disappointed with my body post babies.
My husband is great though. He is very very understanding, although deep down I know it’s not easy for him.
If I’m completely honest with you, we have sex maybe once every a month. If that.
It’s embarrassing. I’m not proud of it. I want to do it more, but I am so hard on myself about my body, that it stops me from doing anything. Plus, I am tired. Like seriously, EXHAUSTED. When I lie down in bed at 8.30pm, I am literally asleep within 5 minutes.
It’s not an easy topic to talk about, but SO MANY people have questioned it on different Facebook forums that I thought it was time to tackle it.
Some Mums bounce right back and have no problems at all – but that’s not me. I don’t want it to be like this, but it is.
I can’t wait to get back into it when the kids are older and I get more sleep HAHA … and hopefully I learn to love my new body.
Because ultimately, that’s what it is about. Learning to love myself.
In my latest podcast, I openly chat with some guests about our experiences as new mums and how we felt about sex.